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by ryancodes 2731 days ago
If your friends are close to you, they shouldn't be annoyed that you're texting them. Wanting to spend time with your friends is a good thing, and if they're legitimately annoyed, make certain you're communicating that you value the time that you get to spend with them (this is especially key if your time is sparse.)
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They are close. And annoyed isn't the right word. More it feels annoying to me to text 5 friends to find out all 5 are traveling until Sunday or are x, y or z with other commitments. Maybe that makes more sense. All of us are busy and finding time is hard so for each try (2-3x a week) we usually can get together twice a month
i know that feeling, it's like you are chasing after your friends, and need to put in energy to figure out when they are free because you don't already know their schedule.

i have a gut feeling though that if you don't already know the schedule of your friends, and (as you mentioned) you aren't comfortable to share your detailed schedule with them, then maybe they are not that close and you won't miss them if you don't see them every week.

if you do miss them, then pick one or two that you feel close enough to actually share your detailed schedule and let them help with coordinating with the others.