[ratsimihah]

> Did I devote enough time to my family? Did I learn enough new things? Did I develop new friendships and deepen old ones? These would have been laughable to me when I was 25

I'm almost 30 and those are my priorities, maybe that's why I am not as "successful" as Bill Gates?

[ArcMex]

I was thinking something similar. I'm 28 and 2018 was a difficult year because I had to end many, many friendships because it became harder and harder for me to relate to them on a level I desire for my personal growth but I digress. The fact that Gates mentions that he thinks about these things now as opposed to his 20s makes me wonder if I am making the right decisions here. Still, I have made great progress. Sober and cigarette free for over a year, in a committed relationship for the first time since 7 years ago and a stable income and some savings in there somewhere. So maybe there is benefit to be had from being old young.

[kamaal]

>>I had to end many, many friendships because it became harder and harder for me to relate to them

>>I desire for my personal growth but I digress.

>>The fact that Gates mentions that he thinks about these things now as opposed to his 20s makes me wonder if I am making the right decisions here.

A few days back some one on HN mentioned that most people on earth, are not going to terrible failures or spectacular successes.

Once you come to this realization. You will take your health, mental health, friendships, relationships and hobbies far more seriously.

After a while all you want is a peaceful, normal life with happy relationships and healthy body. After a while you can earn enough. And you are going to be eating the same burgers, as a billionaire eats to fill stomach. The beef ain't exactly going to come from heaven for trading extra efforts for sure failure.

>> Still, I have made great progress.

That which is in locomotion must arrive at the half-way stage before it arrives at the goal.

— as recounted by Aristotle, Physics VI:9, 239b10

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zeno%27s_paradoxes#Achilles_an...

For a lot of things in life, there are indeed infinite sub tasks you need to complete. Most of us aren't going to make it. Bail out while you have time.

[ratsimihah]

I think it's ok to end or lessen friendships that do not align with where you are going, as long as you commit and build new relationships that do align with your goals, which seems to be what you are doing :)

I haven't had to end friendships as I grew, as those that diverge tend to naturally fade away. But I always make sure to nourish new ones that are more in line with where I'm going, and it feels amazing to have that kind of control in your life.