[DanAndersen]

OK. Some people react to external criticism with seething resentment. Others end up finding it a useful source of energy to push themselves into a new state even if they are hating it in the moment. The continued "tough love" approaches in traditionally masculine spaces like military boot camps suggests it works for many.

[tonyarkles]

That’s really the mark of a good coach: being able to identify what’s good for the individuals they’re coaching. “Don’t be a weak little girl!!!” works for some “C’mon 5 more you’re almost there you’re awesome!” works for others.