Would the same comment be applicable to other classes/races/sexes who have been and/or still are discriminated against? Would you say "learning to live with it is a good skill" to a straight white woman? An African-American man? A Jewish person? If the answer is no, investigate more closely the location of the fecal matter.
Living with abuse in its many wonderful forms is a skill that queer people learn early on. The ones who don't, wind up with obituaries that politely avoid stating how or where they died, and a closed-casket funeral.