| She told me she doesn't love her dad and she thinks he's immature. She visits her dad since she went to the country where her dad lives for studies. She asked her dad for money for her studies but he refused, saying that he doesn't have any. He also sometimes joins her in shopping and buys stuff for himself and never pays for it. All while her mom supported her.
But she believes it's because of her, her mom has never progressed in like her dad. (Read: finding a different life partner) The biggest problem is that she feels as if she's burden for her mom. She tried sucide at 16. Now she's 18 and doesn't feel sucidal anymore but negative throughts have never left her. I convinced her to go to a doctor who prescribed her Mirtazapine 15mg. It worked for a few days then stopped working. Now, she's avoiding doctor. He depression is very severe. Racing thoughts overload her brain to point where she's not able to think clearly anymore. Feels tired all time. All her friends have left her without saying anything. Only i am left now. I don't like seeing her like this. I've read a lot about depression so, that i don't end up making it worse and not hurt her in anyway. She says, stop trying for me, I'll never be cured. But I've a strong belief to see her cured one day. I wonder what can i do from here. It's a decade of depression. |
You can NOT change her. She will reach out eventually, or she won't. Believing "I'll never be cured" is itself a defense mechanism. That can mean she's just too young to be able to start healing. Particularly if she's still stuck in this environment, and living with those dependencies. Only when she's able to fly out of the nest, and distance herself sufficiently from both her parents, she can begin opening up.
The next best thing to help her cope till someday she find the strength to reach out, is a yoga class. That is not so expensive, even just once a week will do wonders and more effective and soothing than taking antidepressants. I talk from experience from a time when I had insane levels of anxiety. Just once a week made a significant difference.
Bless you both not much else I can say. I wanted to type more but it's too complex of a topic.