[kentrado]

You know what he needs? A stern talk from poppa Peterson?

I think calling him a man-child for realizing that this is a raw deal, deeply condescending and unnecessary.

It is a raw deal. The "normal" approach to work in our society is soul crushing. I'm 28 years old and I have been unhappy about my job since I left college. The thing I spend most of my time on, more than 40 hours a week, is something I hate doing, therefore I hate my life. But hey, I have car, and a bank account and the fridge is full, so it is all worth it?

I'm still exploring other ways. There are some jobs that I think will be able to satisfy me. If not, I want to do exactly OP plans to do, because I'd rather be poor and happy than middle class and miserable.

[altairiumblue]

I think when someone's goal is to go back to "life under my parents' roof", calling them a man-child is perfectly appropriate.

> I'd rather be poor and happy than middle class and miserable.

Those aren't your only two options though. You can set up a life that includes responsibility and is incredibly rewarding. In fact, being able to handle the responsibility is often where the sense of doing something meaningful comes from.

edit: To put it simply, the better reaction to realizing that "this is a raw deal" isn't to ask "How can I run away from this?", but instead ask yourself "How can I become a person who can handle this and thrive?"

[kentrado]

>My goal in life is to have maximum freedom: minimal obligations, minimal stress, minimal responsibilities, while maintaining a private room to live in with basic utilities and food. Then I want to spend my life working on my own projects in my own time, on my own terms, at my own pace, in solitude.

Nowhere there did he say that his goal is to live under his parent's roof. That's something you need to willfully misunderstand in order to disparage OP's lifestyle aspirations.

There was an old man working at a postal office at the age of 50, he decided to say fuck it and he quit his job to become a writer. Everyone else said he was crazy leaving well paying job and a future pension. He didn't care, he said that he would rather starve than spend another day doing that senseless grind. He was prepared to die. His name was Charles Bukowski.

I only have words of encouragement for someone who wants to dedicate his limited time on this earth pursuing his own projects and aspirations.

I think your responses say more about you than about OP.

[altairiumblue]

me > I think when someone's goal is to go back to "life under my parents' roof", calling them a man-child is perfectly appropriate.

you > Nowhere there did he say that his goal is to live under his parent's roof.

OP > This is practically how I've lived for years under my parents' roof until recently when we were displaced. Now I want to regain what I lost.

If we are looking at the same text but seeing different words, we can end this discussion.

[kentrado]

Let me help you understand what OP wrote. It is not that difficult.

OP's goal as clearly stated has nothing to do with living with his parents. He wants time to follow his personal projects. When he was living with his parent he was able to do those projects. But now that that's no longer possible, he wants to regain what he lost in terms of free time and responsibility so he can get back to working on his personal projects.

We can end this discussion right now. I have nothing else to say to you.

[altairiumblue]

I don't want to get involved in pointless back-and-forths but I think our disagreement comes from how we see OP.

I think you're reading his original post and seeing a person who wants to go against the typical path that's laid out in front of him, have a unique lifestyle and the freedom to choose his own work.

When I read it, I'm seeing a spoiled child, who doesn't want to grow up or do anything difficult but lock himself alone in a room for the rest of his life. And he's hiding all of this behind aspirations for more freedom.