[iamdave]

They say its like facebook, but with... fewer family members and coworkers I guess you could say

I'm being mildly sarcastic in tone when I say this: they're probably there, you just haven't found their profiles yet ;)

Which is kind of the interesting thing about Fetlife, one can't approach someone about being on "that" site without outing themselves for being on "that" site as well-since you're not able to see any profiles without logging in (assuming a friend doesn't login and show them around and they spot your face in a profile pic commenting in a group thread or on someone's photos) where others you can't see at all unless that person has added you to their friends list-you're directed to a generic 404 page.