[jf-]

I think I’ve said as much as I need to at this point. However regarding your friend, incels, and other such people: some people have mental and personality disorders that make them act extremely towards themselves and others. I don’t think we should misrepresent reality for the sake of such people, certainly not for fundamental truths of life that affect us all. There are better ways to help them, ways that don’t involve distorting reality for the rest of society. Being realistic in this case does not mean being unduly pessimistic as they may be, but nor does it mean denying the reality of one’s position.