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I disagree - every parent absolutely can and should learn. Also I do not seek "advice". I seek general knowledge. But maybe we are talking about different things.

I'm talking about kids growing and learning stages and limit searching are as old as humanity. I hope there are a lot of people working as eg. a kids’ therapist who - after dealing with kids and their parents problems for 30 years - recognized common patterns and errors, how to avoid or mitigate those within reason then sit down to wrote what they learned.

Now the answers I seek won't be written anywhere. But by knowing and learning the usual process of kids growing up I know I will have more patience and more strength doing what I think would benefit them - and more importantly I will have a better understanding what would benefit them.