One thing I would suggest is observe other people (and yourself), how they’ve turned out, and what conditions may have contributed to their current state (for good and for bad).
Great suggestion but it won't work as it lacks data points.
Self reflection is my everyday bread since I have kids, but no one - apart spouse - really tells you about their childhood traumas, his connections with his father or mother (and of course you will never hear the other end of a story) or how their parents were handling them, or have a chance to really see inside their lives. Without this information you cannot get to the reasons or good/bad parental decisions.
But a therapist could have this information. Could have enough data points. Could wirte a book about it.
It would be a mistake not to read it and learn from others mistake and success.
What about those family friends who’s kids turned out to be poorly adjusted adults? Or the brother in law who doesn’t have clue about life. There are lots of places to obverse.
Self reflection is my everyday bread since I have kids, but no one - apart spouse - really tells you about their childhood traumas, his connections with his father or mother (and of course you will never hear the other end of a story) or how their parents were handling them, or have a chance to really see inside their lives. Without this information you cannot get to the reasons or good/bad parental decisions.
But a therapist could have this information. Could have enough data points. Could wirte a book about it. It would be a mistake not to read it and learn from others mistake and success.