| Achieving something by accident feels like failure in comparison to achieving something on purpose. A sense of purpose is integral to your sense of worth, your self-esteem and fuels your ambition. Goals are useless if you don't have any ambition. Ambition is absent when you have no goals. You should never measure yourself with someone else's measuring stick. You should always establish your own measuring stick. So that you will always know what you have achieved and what you believe is success. Leaving yourself open to being measured by others is an invitation to be controlled by others. Once you give up that control, you will never be happy with the direction they push you. You will never truly believe in what you do and you will lose your sense of purpose and feel like a puppet. People who say their don't believe in goals are lying or aimlessly floating through life achieving nothing. A goal is not a plan, it is an end result. A successful person will constantly assess and alter their plan to meet their goal. Sometimes setting a goal is the quickest way to find out you aren't really interested in that goal and you are lead to what your really believe to be important. |