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by onemoresoop 2771 days ago
Is there a chance that your introversion is caused by not feeling comfortable around a certain type of people? Are you always introverted even with a close group of friends? Chances are that you're not compatible with a certain type of people but there are ways to overcome that. First try to understand where all this is coming from, do a lot of introspection, see a professional if you can. Take a personality test and read about it. However inaccurate the MBTI is, I found that it helped me a lot. Second, I found that my voice was a bad feedback loop, I'd attempt to weakly say something and people would not even hear me and that would make me close within myself even more and when I had the chance to say something I would avoid it based on pervious experience. Eventually I had become comfortable in my unconfortable silence. This can be unlearned and should be unlearned at all costs, it will save your sanity later on. Learning to project my voice has helped me quite a bit. Also being prepared helped me as well.