[eriktate]

Nothing big ever got built by a bunch of self-centered loud mouths either. And these are typically the types that find themselves in these roles.

I think you're making a big leap saying "let them deal with the frustrations of relationships". Nowhere in OP's post does he mention disliking people. In fact he seems proud of the fact that people come to him when they have questions. You need more than pure technical acumen for people to feel comfortable coming to you.

Situations like these are complicated, and I'm not sure there's enough information to make a judgement one way or the other. I do think taking the "high road" here is not always the best course of action. If you're more interested in the success of your team or your product, you will remain ripe for being used by those more interested in their personal success. It's a toxic circle that's hard to escape once you find yourself in it.

My advice would be to heed the red flag and look for work elsewhere. If you are being leaned on as heavily as you feel, then it will likely become apparent once you move on to greener pastures.

[Techonomicon]

This guy right here is one of the few comments in this thread that "get it". OP seems genuinely interested in the success of the team, where as who he's talking about, seemingly at least, is interested in his own success - this isn't bad, but it generally goes against the grain of building a team of happy campers.

As @eriktate said, you either make some noise because you care, or you realize that the people above this person don't understand what makes great technical leadership actually great, and you leave.

[alistproducer2]

The OP never made the case that the person was incompetent though. I'm not seeing any red flags other than the OPs resentment. I understand where he's coming from. It's a struggle that many technical-minded folks go through in a business environment. When "I just wanna build cool stuff" clashes with "How do we manage resources efficiently to meet the deadline?"

[Techonomicon]

That isn't the case here, I think you're conflating the two. Building cool / cool stuff doesn't clash with meeting deadlines, knowing how to do both / when / how to compromise is vastly more useful than being either one of those two extremes.

The more people in management that care about building well engineered products and that treat humans like humans and not resources the better off we are as a community.