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I don't really care all that much about how safe a given mode of transportation is on average. I care about how safe it is on my particular trip.

With both flying and driving you can take steps to get better than average odds.

With flying, you can pick airlines that have a better safety record. You can schedule your trips to avoid flying in bad weather. Flying nonstop, or minimizing layovers if you cannot get nonstop, should help, too.

With driving, you can pick a car that has good crash protection. You can keep your car well maintained. You can travel at times when accident rates are lower. You can pick routes with low accident rates. You can drive like you are a 35+ year old female. You can drive at a time when you are sober, not on drugs, well rested, and healthy.

There's so much variation on the driving side, I doubt it is possible to actually figure out the risk if someone takes most or all of those steps.