[i_made_a_booboo]

That assumes they were using effective parenting techniques in the first place.

Siblings winding up in the ER?

Actually I wound up in the ES once come to think of it.

But being a parent now I get it. You do your best and unfortunately sometimes that's shit. I thought I would be a way better parent than I am but I try. Definitely no smacking because I worked out that at least that doesn't do anyone any good. In all my experiments of parenting so far the effective thing is making boundaries explicit and enforcing them consistently.

The hard part is consistency because kids are just relentless sometimes. But if you back down you lose. It takes patience and sometimes you just don't have it. S;me people lash out in those circumstance because the feedback is immediate and gratifying. It looks like it works.

I'm glad the data supports that while it works short term it's in aggregate more problematic long term.