People aren't like resources to be harvested: they are 'ends in themselves', i.e. with their own lives and perspectives. Also, unlike an extractable resource, their goodness is variegated.
I agree, and I think even the "I drink white male tears" people probably have good intentions. I just don't care about hearing them say they drink white male tears.
Perhaps a better wish would be to be able to hear what insights they have that I don't, without it being wrapped in a package that makes me angry.