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by annamargot 2820 days ago
Absolutely. Childhood trauma shapes adult behavior, can induce psychosis, and greatly affect health. [0]

But even before we even get to overt trauma, simple resentment is pretty powerful in my opinion as well. Resentment can build in lots of ways. Parents perceived to not treat children equally or to restrict child from persuing a particular interest including love interests.

If parents don’t respect a child it has consequences.

Edit: to add that resentment is normally a reciprocation. Meaning, parent resents child and therefore behaves in a manner that causes child to resent parent. Snowball that for a few years / decades = not good.

[0]- https://www.ted.com/talks/nadine_burke_harris_how_childhood_...

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Read about this in a book recently, not sure which.. Parents who abandon/do not care about their child, will raise a child which believes no one values them. This causes them to believe they are not worth much, thus they will be afraid of going out and getting their voice heard as an adult - because deep inside, they believe their voice to be worthless. This person will avoid risk, avoid being heard as it may be "punished", according to previous experience..
I wonder did this research just look at the "normal range", with these kinds of instances treated as "outliers". I'd expect the results to be strongly qualified as such but these kinds of details often get lost in translation.