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> The group of people actively pushing for codes of conduct and the group of people making decisions like the one above have significant overlap

That's just vague hand-wavy logic. One time, a group of people vaguely aligned with X did something stupid, therefore X is a fundamentally bad idea. Obviously that's not true. If a conference organiser puts together a bad conference do you say that conferences as a concept are terrible? Of course not. You say "that was a bad conference". When an organiser overzealously applies inclusive rules you don't say "inclusivity rules are bad", you say "that rule is bad".