[swatcoder]

Freelancer here.

You can absolutely be comfortable and relaxed and have a steady schedule as a freelancer. Freelancing does incorporate more activities and skills than being an employee with the underlying trade and so it doesn't suit everyone. It might not suit the OP.

But not for because of instability. You can fit all those other activities and skills into the same schedule as the trade work with good discipline and experienced planning. And you can counter the financial stress of any feast/famine cycling of the work with good budgeting.

For most, it takes some time to get the hang of it, but freelancing is not a perpetual hustle. You don't keep arguing with yourself and pushing yourself forever. It just becomes a job that you happen to run for yourself.