[phakding]

> But here's the thing: As a man -- and especially as a white, English-speaking, North American man -- nobody gives a shit about my problems.

I migrated to different country from my birth country as well. You know what, nobody gave a shot about my problems in my home country and nobody does in my adopted country.

I am very independent, but few times when I leaned on someone they totally failed me (not intentionally), so I don't even expect anything from anyone.

It's libersting to know exactly what I am capable of because there's no one else in the equation.

[prawn]

I think people fail others in that sort of situation because they have to prioritise their own problems first, and they forget a plan to aid another, or run out of time, etc. As you said, self-sufficiency is important, and getting any help from others is a bonus.