[ocdtrekkie]

I'm willing to bet most of the instances that a large group of instances have blocked federate with each other. There's definitely kinda a split among Mastodon instances, between free speech instances and fairly moderated instances. I wonder if you could find an instance which plays well with both sides.

There is no overarching authority on these instances, so there's a lot of options, it may just be hard to find the one that meets your needs.