[bobbby]

For a language aimed at beginners its advocates really make it difficult to recommend getting involved with it

Your response typifies the unpleasant atmosphere I've witnessed around Elm which is a shame as it's author and intentions seem so good.

[yakshaving_jgt]

What you are doing is called Tone Policing.

[joel_ms]

No‚ it's not. They're not attacking the validity of your statement by criticizing your tone, they are criticizing the effectiveness of your communication. And tone is completely relevant in that context.