[ewjordan]

The big difference between leaving a relationship and leaving a job is that even if you're in a good place, a job will never last for life. Some relationships will.

Anecdotally, I don't know a single person that has regretted leaving a job when they decided to (disclaimer: most people I know work skilled jobs). Even when people come back to the same company, it's usually on a different team and with a 30% bump in salary. So I generally agree, once you're thinking about it, it's probably time to go, you'll only end up better off.

Relationships are a lot more nuanced, hence the lesser benefit the article reports versus leaving jobs. I'd want to see it broken down by relationship length, age, happiness level and other factors before making any serious decisions based on this article.

[__s]

My mother & father have both held the same job for the past 20 years, & intend to retire from those jobs. Secretary at a lawfirm & furniture repair. They're both now enjoying 5 weeks vacation a year. & hey, they've also maintained a great relationship for three decades too

[XorNot]

And they're probably legacy employees in both those positions - it's extremely unlikely anyone new entering is going to get the same terms or stability.

[scarface74]

My parents did too. Good luck with that in technology. I’ve seen (and been) one of those people at a job for a decade, and then when it’s time to leave find yourself unhireable. While you are there, watch salaries increase in the market much faster than your salary increases.

[dajohnson89]

I've definitely left a good dev job for more money and regretted it.

[gordaco]

To add another point of anecdote, I've also left a bad dev job for less money but better mental health overall. Such a good decision, but a difficult one to make.

Higher amounts of money yield diminishing returns. It's difficult to balance it with the added benefits of a low stress job (or one with a better commute, friendlier colleagues, etc), but putting the effort it's totally worth it. This includes being honest with yourself about what makes you happy in a job, which is actually much more difficult than it sounds (as it always it when you need to be honest with yourself).

[scarface74]

I’ve never left a job and regretted. My criteria for a job are technology, environment and money. Once the technology got out of step with the market, it’s dangerous to stay at a job. Once you’ve been at a job long enough, why not leave for a better environment? As far as money, all other things being equal. Why not leave for money?