[erikpukinskis]

Do you think your friends are better people than those who are having kids? Seems sort of implied by your comment.

And what kind of kids would your friends have, given that they’re not particularly drawn to or versed in family life and values?

Not trying to be combative I just would be very interested in seeing this unpacked.

[mrchicity]

I won't comment on better/worse since I have no idea what op meant and it also makes no sense to compare. Having children is a fundamental human right. It's a shame that people who are capable of doing so, and want to do so, defer this goal until it requires medical intervention or becomes impossible, just to have a good career or fit in with their peers.

I don't think being versed in family life matters. The older I get, the more I realize that the folks in charge are just as confused as I am half the time. Everyone learns as they go. Nobody is born knowing how to raise a kid and every kid is different. If you give them a safe & nurturing place, spend time with them, and try your best, you'll do just fine.

[toasterlovin]

For whatever reason, I ended up with a lot of friends who are smart, conscientious people. They’d make great parents. Well above average. Mostly it seems like they’re not having kids because they more focused on other things (career, personal growth and achievement, etc). Having kids seems to have been relegated to an afterthought among the culturally ascendant class. And certainly having lots of kids is looked down on as something only weird religious people do.