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People have said it here already, but I will repeat it again. Systems (actually habits!), not goals, are the solution.

You need to derive pleasure from sticking to a habit and making continuous improvements. Arbitrary and concrete goals might be hard to achieve. But if you stick to habits, good things will happen™. Good things that are hard to plan. E.g. you will not get the girl you want, but you will get another great girl, possibly a better one!

Sticking to goals brings very short-lived pleasure, whereas habit rewards are continuous and long-lasting.

To form habits, try https://www.tinyhabits.com/. In a nutshell, this is a continuous improvement framework for habits.