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Care to elaborate how exactly I'm passive-aggressive ? People have been telling me I'm blunt and direct. That's what I attract girls with. When I try to correct that guy's manipulations, he turns it into a joke, says I'm argumentative, makes a personal attack, and keeps badmouthing me behind my back.

As for how he would describe me, I can tell you. He described me as sensitive, eager to please others, and a blackmailer (when I told his openly racist pal I'd record him repeatedly calling me a dick and take it to the boss). He criticizes my choice of tools (Bash, Vim) for being ancient without pointing out anything he can do better with a modern editor - quite the opposite, I see him struggling finding something that would be very easy to grep. What he says and what he does simply doesn't add up which is the definition of manipulation.

He gives another coworker advice on Javascript and one framework, but he didn't know what type 'var x;' is. Anyone who played with Javascript for more than a week should know beyond doubt it's undefined. Or out of the blue he says one of Python's advantages is high development speed and he hasn't considered that (but he was kind enough to blast it for being slow in the past...no, he only had brief contact with C++).

And it's only the 1 guy I have problems with. Boss likes me, the young and trusting programmer likes me, the racist pal has some respect for me because I work out and we can talk about exercise.