[modells]

I’m sorry, but Tinder and similar swipe-on-photos cargo-cult hookup apps have de facto cannibalized the online dating-scene with its entire focus on appearance (and atrophying genuine communication), promoting a major captological phenomenon of manipulating women into rating men more negatively based on nothing other than appearances. It contributes to unrealistic expectations, disposable interactions, paradox of choice and a lack of authenticity. If you’re not perfect and super photogenic with 4 professional “candid” pics, you have zero chance on these anti-relationship apps. tldr: it’s far phonier than it needs to be, encourages casual wasting of time and leads to a society where people stop talking to/slam the door on the real world. If you move to a new area, the solid, normal people aren’t going to be on hookup apps, but psycho nymphos with herpes are most def on there.

[pennaMan]

I use an image of a strong interest I have as my pic, no personal info, not even my real name. It acts as a strong filter, so far my experience has been net positive.

I find it far more rewarding to try to hack the awful world around me instead of complaining how awful the world is/is becoming.

[wild_preference]

People already judge by looks. There’s nothing noble about wasting your time approaching someone that never found you attractive, that’s not their choice.

If you have the time and preference to meet people face to face, you can still do that. People still do that and Tinder is a nice supplement.

But many of us look at dating as a numbers game. And Tinder is a hell of an upgrade to sending messages to women on other dating platforms where you don’t even know if they like your skin color. That’s a waste of time.

You don’t need to be perfect to get Tinder dates. But being ugly in this world with or without Tinder already stacks cards against you. Tinder is not so different from cold-approaching women at the bar. Except in Tinder you know she is more likely to give you a shot beforehand. But you have to trade away the ability to charm her in person. Why does it bother you so much that many people like tht trade-off?

Your post reeks of someone who’s mad that all those attractive people seem to be fucking everyone but you. Dating is hard. I’m willing to try many paradigms/sources at once to date at my desired level. If I was meeting new women every week through my social circle (the ideal imo) then I wouldn’t use Tinder or go out just to find single women, but until then...

If you’re not happy with your dating life, then maybe consider increasing your hustle yourself and/or find the approaches that work for you. Maybe Tinder just isn’t for you, but seems a bit outward to turn it into technosocial criticism.