[rachel-ftw]

there are assholes at every job and there are two options here: Either they're controling pricks or they have an order of magnitude more information and you can't see what you're missing.

I think the key will be if this starts to be a pattern. Happens once? just a bunch of jerks. Find a new gig and ask some hard questions in your interview about how they handle disagreements/different ways of thinking through problems.

Happens again? Start to evaluate where you might be at fault and how you can grow. Is there another level of understanding you can seek or talent you can improve? Even if that's project communication and task management or another tangential but impactful improvement?

Maybe do that anyway if you have bandwidth.

No, it's not like that everywhere and you're not crazy. Start quietly working on your resume and networking.