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by carlmr 2891 days ago
Yeah, this rings true from experiencing two kids at my home and visiting single children and multi-children families as a kid.

The single children where very demanding on their parents. The only source of attention and entertainment is the parents, so this makes sense.

Two children entertain themselves a bit more, but like in duopolic situations you have the most extreme competition. This leads to a lot of fights over shared resources.

With 3+ children fights over resources between 2 children don't lead to zero sum gains, so that the competition actually becomes less. Cooperation becomes more important. And the kids almost always entertain themselves.

I'd definitely say the 3+ children parents were usually the least stressed, but maybe that was just my impression. The older siblings at some point functioned as quasi parents to the younger siblings.

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Single child here, I didn't feel as demanding; however I certainly had a friendship-style relationship with my parents that all my other friends (none of them single children) didn't have with their parents.

In my experience, usually one child of a set seems to always be a lot more demanding than others.