[notmyname]

That's great to hear that you're forcing yourself to keep communication in the open, when at all possible. That's one of the best ways to keep a community healthy.

In my experience with a particular open source project, more than half of new contributors started by communicating privately with myself or some other leader in the project. This is only bad if the communication never moves out of private conversation. I've found it normally takes a few nudges to get people to build their confidence and participate publicly.

Interestingly, it's not only new contributors who suffer from this. I've been told by some of the most prolific contributors to our project that they are still intimidated to speak out publicly. Many times these feelings come from deep-seated cultural norms that don't really fit with traditional Western/American ways of communicating. And that's ok! We all learn together how to best communicate with each other. And we get a healthier community and better code out of it.