[internetman55]

I consider most of that stuff to be trash. I think, according to common sense, bad things happening to you is actually bad (for a variety of reasons). Many people who make it out of difficult situations end up with minds and belief systems so twisted that they borderline can't function in human relationships (e.g. a relative who would borderline abuse his children by screaming at them until they were crying and cowering over minor infractions because he believes you choose how you react to external circumstances and his dad pulled a gun on him so this obviously isn't even a big deal and the kid needs to stop overreacting and just try harder)