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by rambossa 2925 days ago
I credit any of my "success" to the struggles I had as a child. Our world isn't perfect, and some of us experience different & harsher aspects of its flaws. I think the earlier some experience these flaws, the more they learn to adapt and realize truths of human nature. We learn that many things aren't going to be handed to us and to get what we want we will have to work a bit harder, or struggle a bit more (In the military we called this "Embrace the Suck").

We learn that our families aren't the same we see on our favorite TV shows. It hurts & its sad for young children to experience a struggle, but I think they can ultimately strengthen them -- unless the difficulties are so severe, or misguiding, that they lead children down the wrong path of life (i.e. severe psychology disorders, crime).

Again though, the world/nature is a tough place, and its nice to want to enforce being easier on and conceal realities from children, but I think there is something of value in experiencing "realness"/struggle -- a simple & less-harsh example is the losing team getting no trophy.

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I was deeply depressed and anxiety strikken during my entire adolescence. After dropping out of university at 20 I got diagnosed with ADHD and Bipolar. While sometimes I wish I'd had a normal life with parents that taught we good life lessons, in hindsight I feel like I've learnt even more fundamental lessons and have experienced some "truths" that I would not have experienced otherwise.