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by zer00eyz 2927 days ago
Lets put a different spin on this.

You realize that "I also worry deeply about hypothetical situations" is something that many people can't or won't do.

Have you ever shared with someone one of your issues (maybe something more mundane) and they blew it off only to have exactly that outcome (and then had to bite your tongue instead of saying I told you so?) Maybe you thought of it and didn't say it and kicked yourself for NOT bringing it up.

If you can do this then you may have a skill (and one that is somewhat unique).

The worry part, and the fact that it is chronic and haunting is a problem.

For me, It stopped when I realized that I wasn't getting to enjoy things in my life due to the worry. I made a lot of changes on the way. I embraced the fact that I was going to die - and that it was out of my control - you could get hit by a bus staring at your phone one day... a jet engine could fall out of the sky and kill you. I had to embrace the fact that I could not change the world only my role in it. I had to embrace the fact that anything I paid for was replaceable. That I could always find another job - that if I had to I could live in a shelter or a trailer or my car - because it would only be temporary because I could make it better. It took a LONG time and a LOT of self talk. It took a few bad things happening that were easily avoidable but also less of a real problem then what I made them out to be.

IF you don't think you can do this, or it won't work for you, then seek professional help - it works for a lot of people and may work for you.