| I identify with much of what you say. For a long time I did not have the skills to deal with these feelings. Now I do, but it's always hard. A lot of this I got from about 18 months of cognitive behavioral therapy. Here are some general tips that work for me: 1. Feelings do not need to drive how I make decisions. I have them, and work on ways to let them pass. 2. To deal with things I worry about, I confront my worries by trying, making mistakes, and learning from the experience. 3. I get better at things I can control myself, practice finding alternative approaches for things I can't control, try to steer clear of stuff that is just gonna be a problem for me, and accept that sometimes I'm gonna have to endure shit that rolls my way 4. It's a lot easier to feel good when I'm actively seeking out things to enjoy, and lately I've found a lot of joy in pole dancing (and I'm 43 y/o overweight male couch potato!) 5. Unsecured debt sucks and always makes me feel like crap & that makes everything I do harder I believe you can be a confident badass if you want to be. If you wanna vent w/o judgement, hear my story, or chat in general, my email is in my profile. I wish you success on your journey to less angst & more satisfaction! |