[hubby]

My wife has the same exact issue. She will ruminate for weeks about things that don't matter but to her could put her in an awkward situation. Her anxiety can bring out the worst in her towards people who love her most and causes me anxiety/stress because I know what situations trigger her. It makes me want to hate her, to be perfectly honest. I know that is of no help to you, but reading this made me want to vent.

[anxiouspete]

No, not at all. It's good to vent! I hope your wife can find herself at ease soon. It's fucking shit to be like this

[chillwaves]

Some people seem to radiate neurosis and spread it to any susceptible minds, including family, friends and pets.