[to_bpr]

>You could simply make it mandatory time off.

Then I won't notify the company when I've had a child. Simple as.

Don't consider going down the road of "you must declare what is happening in your private life to your private employer" as someone else did either, without at least considering what an absolute breach of privacy that would involve.

[partiallypro]

It wouldn't matter, because in the end the company would hire you or promote you with the same expectation as women. It would start to make less and less sense to not take the paternity leave because the opportunity cost would diminish. If you didn't take off, it would be your loss. The system wouldn't be perfect, but it would -help-

[lovich]

We've already decided as a society, in the US at least, that your right to privacy from your company concerning the existence of your children does not exist. The government is willing and able to inform your employer to garnish your wages when it comes to child support payments. They also know if you take dependents on your tax forms.

There are arguments to be made that this right _should_ exist, but since it doesn't currently its not a reason to stop mandatory leave