[ryrobes]

>> have these irrational moral qualms, I would have ended the marriage by now

A twisted version of Stockholm Syndrome, trust me. That nagging feeling that says, "I don't want to rock the boat and be the bad guy", will not move you forward in life.

Doing the long-term mental gymnastics of "Things will get better if X happens or Y turns up", is just wasting more time.

Edit: Please don't read this as negative. But having been there, and having spent way too long pondering the situation... It breaks my heart to hear of those currently living through it.