[headmelted]

Reading stories like yours does make me wonder if the bigger issue here is variance in standards of care.

Clearly you've been advised, based on your specific circumstances, of why it would be in your daughter's best interests to have this surgery done (there's no sarcasm here - it's great that so much consideration has gone into it and clearly it's been the right thing to do in your case).

It does seem like based on my own anecdotal experience, and from other comments in the thread, as if "tonsils out" is an automatically triggered decision in much of the world for certain ailments in cases where it may or may not be appropriate or warranted.

For the record, I hate even being anywhere near the fence on an issue like this, as I'm very much pro-vaccination (for example) and my position on this comes across as anti-science which I'm anything but.