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by Regardsyjc 2935 days ago
One of the first points from the article:

"Don’t try to cheer him up or offer advice

... it could backfire by reinforcing his sense that you just don’t get it, said Megan Devine, a psychotherapist and the author of “It’s O.K. That You’re Not O.K.”

“Your job as a support person is not to cheer people up. It’s to acknowledge that it sucks right now, and their pain exists,” she said."

My parents also read a bunch of books on depression and tried to teach me about it to help me.

It was the last thing I wanted to do. I didn't have any energy to learn anything, I was having enough trouble trying to hold myself together as much as possible every day. Whenever someone tries to help someone who's depressed, I guess they don't get it because most of the time, the depressed person is probably barely keeping it together, and asking them for anything more is not going to work.