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by cryon 2935 days ago
I can't stand when you're expected to wrap every sentence in some sugar coated fake 'niceness' just to not step on somebody's toes. If I have a certain way of expressing myself... Well that's how it is.
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It doesn't have to be about sugar coating. Just try to take some of the emotions out of the conversation and stick to stating the facts, and you can easily come across as much less offensive.
>> If I have a certain way of expressing myself... Well that's how it is.

You shouldn't sell yourself short. Changing the way you communicate is a huge but worthwhile challenge.

In a different time, I would have been mean to you over your comment instead of offering supportive words. It took as much effort to be nice as it used to take to be mean.

I hope I can add a “me too” without stepping on the rules too much. In truth I’m still learning but it’s been worth it.
I didn't say that he should write:

'Hey, great that you took the time to contribute, here are a few suggestions though.'

I am talking about things like: 'If you think xyz, then you are a fucking moron'.