[cautionarytale]

Like many others, I've lived this. The worst is over, and currently I'm merely deep in debt, without material possessions, and signing over my entire paycheck as alimony (yes, all of it). Although my life is currently worth living, knowing what I now know, it would have been better to have simply opted out, rather than go through the years of hell. And that's an awful thing to be able to say.

Each situation is its own, but in general, in the USA marriage is a poor choice for men. If your ex turns evil or crazy, there will be no warning and no mercy.