| I second reading Decisive. If I were in your shoes, I'd do the following: 1) Sit down and write down your "poor" decisions. How could you have prevented them? What information was missing? Could you have known this piece of information in advance if you sought it out? Some of this will help you unpack how much it's you and how much it's situational. 2) Ask your friends about your decision-making style and ask for blunt feedback. 3) Ask yourself how much you should have listened to other people vs how much to yourself? You might need to calibrate your ego/confidence--you might be too trusting (or not trusting enough of yourself) -- For future decisions, 1) Try to make them rationally and not out of emotions. This is tricky because you have to trust your gut, but your gut can be just fear and anxiety. 2) Most important thing: How reversible is a decision? What is the downside? What is the upside? Never, ever make a decision that has a chance of ruin. 3) Always ask: How is this decision wrong? Always be able to articulate for each option what are the downsides. No decision is perfect but you have to be able to weigh the downsides, and also see the problematic aspects of each. This is critical if you fall in love with one answer to a fork on the road. Hope this helps! And do read Decisive! |