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I'd prioritise "engage with your wife and kids" over hobbies - a lot of divorces happen when one partner feels they're doing all the work raising kids and feels the other partner is taking up hobbies to avoid it. Engaging with your wife and kids, if treated as an emotional investment (i.e. got to be careful how you do it just like picking stocks for an investment fund), over time will yield dividends in terms of less nags and less screaming.