[freshyill]

I’ve had migraines, both ocular and the “real” kind, so I know how bad they can be. I wouldn’t say they were anywhere near frequent enough to take a preventative drug for it. I’ve also worked with multiple people who’ve had chronic attendance problems, and migraines were one of their many go-to excuses. I know that sounds bad, but at least two of the people I’ve worked with would frequently use migraines as their excuse for coming in late, yet they never once got one while at work. Stolen cars, sick pets, the bus never showed up, etc. It was constantly something, more than once a week. If they were real, and I’m just being judgmental and seeing patterns that aren’t there, then I’m glad they’ll get relief. If not, it’s one less excuse.

[txcwpalpha]

>I’ve had migraines, both ocular and the “real” kind, so I know how bad they can be. I wouldn’t say they were anywhere near frequent enough to take a preventative drug for it.

These two sentences contradict each other. If you never had to consider taking a preventative for your migraines, then no, you do not know how bad they can be. Migraines are much more than just "ow my head hurts today, I should take the day easy". For some, they are debilitating to the point of sometimes making it impossible to do basic tasks like washing the dishes, reading, or sometimes even watching TV. Sometimes during a migraine you literally cannot do anything other than sit in darkness and wallow in misery, hoping that maybe it will ease up for long enough for you to fall asleep. Any kind of professional work is out of the question during a migraine.

Not getting a migraine while at work isn't uncommon, as sometimes having something to focus on (like work) can help stave off whatever triggers the migraines. Migraines also aren't something that just suddenly happens; people who suffer from chronic migraines often get warning signs that one is coming on 12-24 hours in advance, and they can take just as long to develop as well. If someone was already at work, it's unlikely that a migraine would progress to the point of being debilitating before the workday was over. This is probably why your coworkers usually call in sick, but never leave in the middle of the workday. They typically will know before the workday even begins if it will be a migraine-filled day or not.

Chronic migraines can lead to depression, which can cause a downward spiral of deteriorating health/diet, which can in turn cause more migraines, and more depression. Often time migraines can lead to thoughts of suicide because of how badly it hurts, and how badly it impacts life as a whole.

I understand it's frustrating if your coworkers bail often, and shame on them if they are faking their "migraines" and just using it as an excuse. But as someone who has an SO who suffers from severe migraines 15-20 days per month, and still forces herself to go to work most days even through severe, debilitating pain and depression precisely because she has coworkers with judgmental attitudes like yours, I find your analysis insulting.

[ianai]

As a migrainer, I too am offended.

My migraines have robbed me of pretty much any really stellar life I could have achieved. Undergrad was very tough because of the preventative meds I took. I straight up couldn’t finish grad school and in large part due to the migraines. Yes, I know I could probably have put up some academic fight. But this is also at a point where I had essentially no healthcare and no income. It’s done similar destruction to any social networking desires I may have. I could go on.

As for frequency, without meds I’m basically getting one every day. With meds, I get some days free of pain per week.

[mrhappyunhappy]

Sorry to hear about your condition :( I really hope you find relief in new drugs. Many people here by their comments have no idea what a chronic migraine looks like.

[hvidgaard]

> If you never had to consider taking a preventative for your migraines, then no, you do not know how bad they can be

That is just as judgemental. I get a mix of migraines and cluster headache every now and then. The pain is always concentrated at a specific point behind my right eye, and I can feel it coming hours before it turns bad. Usually I can stop it with something as simple as paracetamol if taken at the first sign. When I fail to do that it progresses to the point where I have to lay completely still with my eyes closed, or I'll empty the content of my stomach right then and there.

But I've never considered any significant medication.

[facetube]

Do you actually have a diagnosis of cluster headache from an MD?

The reason I ask: the pain from cluster headaches is legendarily terrible. The pain has been described as "remarkably greater" than migraine, and probably _at least_ on par with a spinal headache.

I don't have cluster headaches, but I've had a (diagnosed) week-long spinal headache exactly once before. A spinal headache is where your CSF fluid leaks out your back and your brain physically begins to "hang" in your skull. It lasted for a week, I was shot full of so much hydromorphone I couldn't physically coordinate my legs, and I was still in tears from the pain, begging doctors to knock me out. I honestly think I would have died by my own hands had it gone on for another week. It was unbearable.

I would suggest that the odds of someone managing cluster headache without medication – i.e. the headache that's earned the nickname "suicide headache" and causes people to carry around emergency inhalers of hardcore pain killers like butorphanol – is very, very low.

[xab9]

I've read some of your comments about your symptoms and experiences with headaches: I don't envy you.

I had a couple of minor surgeries and some were in full anastesia, some with spinal injection only. Once the nurse said that I may experience headaches and I thought, heck, I know a thing or two about headaches, but noone ever told me how fucking painful it is going to be.

It lasted for two days and the only good thing was that I did not vomit and had no tunnel vision, but the pain reached an astonishing level.

[facetube]

Yeah, this was a case of being rushed out of an ER after a lumbar puncture (negative). You're apparently supposed to be held as an inpatient for at least a few hours while lying still; I was discharged in 15 minutes.

Mine ended up never self-resolving and they had to use a blood injection to produce a clot and "plug" the hole. Before that they tried IV caffeine – apparently that not only exists, but is actually indicated for spinal headaches. Trip report: meh, drinking coffee is much more fun.

[hvidgaard]

The symptoms are consistent with cluster headache, and my doctor has instructed me to get in touch if it reach a point where I'm unable to manage it. For all I care, it's equivalent to sticking a knife in my eye - so very painful. My eye also get severely red and is constantly running when it happens.

> I would suggest that the odds of someone managing cluster headache without medication

Do you find it hard to believe that I, as a person that has managed this particular condition my entire life, is able to tune out the pain as long as I'm completely still and have my eyes closed? I was 30 before it even occurred to me that it was not what other people calls a headache, and I would feel guilty not doing anything with a headache, because people around me constantly said "I have a headache" but acted like nothing was wrong.

[txcwpalpha]

>Do you find it hard to believe that I, as a person that has managed this particular condition my entire life, is able to tune out the pain as long as I'm completely still and have my eyes closed?

Quite frankly, yes. I don't mean to belittle your condition or be a gatekeeper, but cluster headaches and severe migraines can be so bad that you are physically incapable of doing anything but laying still. It's not a choice. It's not just "knife in my eye, I should lay down and try to tune it out", it's "firecrackers are constantly exploding inside my skull and it's affecting my cognitive functions so much that I cannot walk straight, I cannot speak clearly, I cannot see things two feet in front of me, I cannot chew, etc". And it is simply impossible to "tune out the pain".

I don't doubt that you've had some bad headaches and I'm sorry that they have negatively impacted your life, but again, if you've never considered heavy medication for them then no, you do not know the full extent of how bad they can be. You should be thankful for this, not belittling other people's experience with them by implying they can "just take a paracetamol and tune out the pain". The fact that you are able to take paracetamol and that's enough is testament to the fact that you experience less severe migraines/headaches than some others do. A single, severe cluster headache/migraine the likes of which some people get would have sent you to the ER immediately begging for any medication to ensure that such a headache never, ever, ever happened again in your entire life. These are the types of headaches that paracetamol has no chance of even touching. Only incredibly powerful opiods/barbiturates even have a chance of relieving them. And that's just talking about the acute pain. The other terrible part about migraines is their chronicity.

I realize that my entire comment is ridiculous because it's essentially saying "no, my headache is worse than yours!" But saying "well I have headaches too and I'm fine" (like you are doing) is just as stupid.

>and I would feel guilty not doing anything with a headache, because people around me constantly said "I have a headache" but acted like nothing was wrong.

This is essentially what your comment is doing right now, and that's why it's insulting.

[facetube]

A nonzero number of cluster headache sufferers have actually cracked their teeth from involuntarily clenching down in response to the pain.

It's possible OP has a more mild presentation or something, but what was described is pretty damned atypical – and also about a half-micron away from "I can, so why can't you?".

[hvidgaard]

> Quite frankly, yes. I don't mean to belittle your condition or be a gatekeeper, but cluster headaches and severe migraines can be so bad that you are physically incapable of doing anything but laying still. It's not a choice. It's not just "knife in my eye, I should lay down and try to tune it out", it's "firecrackers are constantly exploding inside my skull and it's affecting my cognitive functions so much that I cannot walk straight, I cannot speak clearly, I cannot see things two feet in front of me, I cannot chew, etc". And it is simply impossible to "tune out the pain".

You're mixing the two up I think. What you've described is severe migraines. During a "typical" cluster headache episode, you're restless, because movement doesn't make it worse. You are gatekeeping pretty bad. The MD I've seen have given me the diagnosis cluster headaches with symptoms of migraines. Last time I had an episode, I was laying new flooring, noticed it coming and do the only thing I could, take some painkillers and power on. Before long I was cutting boards wrong, trying to lay them the wrong way around, and at some point my wife directly asked me if I was okay because of the atypical behavior. I wasn't and I made my way into the bedroom and didn't emerge again for 3 hours. Any sound, light, or movement during an episode is pretty bad.

> not belittling other people's experience with them by implying they can "just take a paracetamol and tune out the pain".

I've never implied that. I've said that is what I can do. You seem to be incapable of accepting that cluster headaches can range from something manageable, to something that makes people commit suicide. As I've mentioned, one of the leading MD on headaches in Denmark have diagnosed me with cluster headaches.

> A single, severe cluster headache/migraine the likes of which some people get would have sent you to the ER immediately begging for any medication to ensure that such a headache never, ever, ever happened again in your entire life.

Except a 10yo can not just go to the ER for that, and when you grow up being told to get over it, you find other ways to manage it.

> These are the types of headaches that paracetamol has no chance of even touching. Only incredibly powerful opiods/barbiturates even have a chance of relieving them. And that's just talking about the acute pain. The other terrible part about migraines is their chronicity.

Paracetamol is not handling it, they often stop it, or rather, it stops the thing that is causing it to develop. Why it's working, I have no idea - but it's, according to the MD, normal that medication in the initial stages can significantly reduce severity or even stop an episode.

>> and I would feel guilty not doing anything with a headache, because people around me constantly said "I have a headache" but acted like nothing was wrong.

> This is essentially what your comment is doing right now, and that's why it's insulting

Let me get this straight. I'm saying I've been diagnoses with it. I can often successfully stop it, and when I cannot I'm "out of service" for hours. How on Earth is that making people with the same condition feel guilty?

[facetube]

> The symptoms are consistent with cluster headache

Out of curiosity, is that a professional medical opinion, or is that yours?

[hvidgaard]

My GP send me to the "pain center" (I don't know what it's called in English), and the MD that I've seen a does nothing but headaches. His words are that by the clinical definition of a cluster headache, that is my diagnosis. The reason he call it a mix between migraine and cluster headache is because movements makes it worse and I get sensitivity to light and sounds during an episode.

[xab9]

I have "The Big Clusterfuck" twice a year and "just" tension headaches nearly every day. They start around 3pm and they intensify 'til they kill me, even on weekends - but I'm totally 100% sure that there are people at workplace who think this is just an excuse to get me home earlier (though this happens only once or twice in a month, because I'm so ashamed of it).

I also have to sit and "do nothing" for an hour after my breakfast, because I get such a bad stomach aches if I don't that I can hardly walk (yes, yes, I have seen many doctors about it, I have tons of good advice et cetera) - so I usually start work at 9pm and whenever we have an early meeting or gotta see the doctor early in the morning I feel like shit and scared. This I guess too can be categorized as a chronic attendance problem :)

[facetube]

You may find that enduring years of frequent unpredictable debilitating skull pain that lasts for unpredictable amounts of time, causes hours of intense vomiting progressing to dry heaving, and is frequently dismissed by others because the pain isn't visible enough to be seen as a "legitimate excuse"... tends to help other parts of your life become disorganized.