[wafflebear]

> Which to me seemed to be a very niche goal, hanging a network of guys who were desperate to be with her.

It's fairly common. People with narcissistic or borderline personality disorder have a very fragile sense of self, and have an excessive need to be wanted by others. The network of guys is probably a kind of self-medication. Needless to say, these disorders generally have detrimental effects on the people around them.

[stuntkite]

Weird part about it too is that if they get the "wow" response they want from baiting, impressing, over doating, or whatever; they tend to be disgusted at the person responds as intended. If someone feels creeped out or get's what is happening and pulls away (especially if explictly/dramatically), they get very interested and focus on the mystery of the thing they can't have.

I've been around more than a few narcissists, psychopaths, and BPD people in my life. In general I'm sympathetic, but I'm also a magnet because I was raised by one. Took me a long time (and therapy) to realize that when I meet someone and 10 minutes later I think we are going to be best friends that it was a programmed ride.

Almost all of them that I've met are very high IQ individuals. They can exude a sort of confidence, especially psychopaths because of the lack of a strong emotional tether. At the core is an insecurity about how smart they know they are, a compulsive desire to maintain dominance of attention, and a sort of boredom about how dumb everyone is. The boredom about how dumb people are also isn't in the least true, but it's a feeling with built in confirmation bias. Smart people move away from them quickly and they don't see the emotional heisman move people do to avoid them. They don't realize that a lot of people that stick with them know who they are and what they are doing, but love them anyways too.

Personality disorders are complicated as hell. Some of the most interesting people I've ever met are afflicted. Many of them I would love to randomly share a cab with again, but don't want them to know where I live or work. They ARE treatable though if someone wants to do the work! It's important to know that if you have one close to you. That and also strong boundaries are your friend.