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by throwaway84742
2969 days ago
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People commenting on this post, please state if you have kids or not. The reason is, people who don’t have kids tend to be extremely naive about parenting. My take: there’s no such thing as universal “good parenting” advice. Kids are different, and what works well for one can wreck another for the rest of her life. Full disclosure: I’m a father of a “difficult” 15 year old. |
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You may be dealing with toxic friends, failed perfectionism (can't meet a possibly self-imposed standard so just give up entirely), social rejection due to cluelessness, depression, an inability to picture a future self and work toward satisfying the needs of that future self...
The kid has also had 15 years to learn how to manipulate you.
Give it your best shot, but be prepared to let go. Besides the possibilities of "not your fault" and "you were awful", there is the "ordinary imperfection". At some point, sooner or later, you have to kick them out the door and hope they manage.