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by ntsplnkv2 2967 days ago
The line isn't "your thirties."

The line is when you graduate college.

The fact is school is the biggest reason why we make so many friends. Different classes, different people, from grade school to college. Food is taken care of by adults or the dining hall. parents pay the bills or it's covered by your student loan.

Then you graduate. Now you must: spend time to cook, work to pay bills, and if you have an SO/kids, the rest of your time goes there. That's literally it.
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amyjess 2967 days ago
> The line isn't "your thirties."

> The line is when you graduate college.

I agree with this, but with one caveat: it's a slow process, and it takes years to fully take effect.

The process of your friend groups disintegrating does indeed begin with your college graduation, but it takes so long for the effects to be really felt that a lot of people don't realize their friend groups have disintegrated until around the time they hit 30.

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ntsplnkv2 2966 days ago
Yes for sure, it isn't sudden. I think right after college people "settle down" at different times. Some marry early, some later. Marriage and kids are huge time sinks. By 30 many are married. The more that are married means less time for friends, and slowly those "groups" wither away to the most important.
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badpun 2966 days ago
> Then you graduate. Now you must: spend time to cook, work to pay bills, and if you have an SO/kids, the rest of your time goes there. That's literally it.

Unfortunately, it's even worse than that. Even when _I_ did have the time, say when I've taken a year or two off jobs just to enjoy life, other people usually didn't. So I've spent a lot of that time being alone. That's actually one of the major positives of having a job - it provides you with collegues you can hang around and have fun with (assuming the workplace is not toxic and there are people there whose company you enjoy).

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ntsplnkv2 2966 days ago
That's also a big negative about a job - like group projects in school, you're FORCED to work with people you may or may not like. As they say, you don't quit your job, you quit your manager.
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