[modbait]

I am some of those things, and I want that fact to be utterly ignored in a professional context.

Someone who is unintentionally unkind will receive a quiet word better than a hundred codes of conduct. That's how you change hearts and minds.

[jlebar]

I agree that codes of conduct aren't an effective way of changing hearts and minds.

I wonder if you think that CoCs -- or more generally, rules -- have other legitimate purposes?