[Poiesis]

I (male) will sometimes subtly bring it up. It's a bit of a gamble. If the company has a huge problem with the fact I need to occasionally take kids to appointments, etc., then I'd rather not get hired and save the trouble.

Most of the time it's not really a big deal, and sometimes they think it's a big deal when it isn't.

I don't see why putting kids ahead of a career is particularly sexist. My kids certainly are more important than my career. It's of course not generally a black and white issue, though. My kids are not hopelessly abandoned I'd I have a career. My career is not hopelessly stunted if I have kids. Nobody's ever goin ro hold a gun to my head and force me to choose. There's going to be tradeoffs, though--sure.

I get what you're maybe implying about staying home with the kids though. That is closer to a binary decision, an closer to killing the career, and usually done by the wife. In fact, mine did. I would probably be warier about disclosing family status if I were female.