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by xor1 2967 days ago
>You just don't have enough integrity to roll with your actual look.

Everyone I know touches up their dating pics somehow. Let's not even get into how your statement relates to makeup, I'm talking about actual modifications to the picture through filters or even straight-up photoshop.

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So what? I'm not talking about women and make-up. But I'd say the same about a man wearing foundation to round out his blemishes.

The truth is you're really doctoring your images to satisfy your weak ego. And the sooner you acknowledge that, the healthier.

Trying to rope in other people with "but others do it" only demonstrates even weaker integrity. Though I guarantee you're overestimating the number of touch ups using something like Face App. Not really the same as some 80s VHS Instagram filter or whatever.

>The truth is you're really doctoring your images to satisfy your weak ego.

I don't think this is true if everyone is doing it. It's like an arms race, you have to do it just to reach a baseline, as opposed to doing it to stand out.

Something similar that occurs in online dating is that guys add 1-2 inches to their height. The vast majority of men do this. I'm somewhere between 5'10 and 5'11, and most people my height list themselves as 6'+, so I started doing it too, and there's been a noticeable difference in the number of matches I get.

If I put my actual height, women will assume I'm under 5'9, because every guy who is 5'8 is listing themselves as 5'10.

You can claim that I'm being "insecure", but I've never been dishonest about my actual height in person. I used to just round down and put 5'10 because I really didn't care, and I'd always get remarks about how I was taller than they expected. Funnily enough, lots of people who are the same height as me really do believe they are 6' because this exaggeration has become so common, and the average adult doesn't measure their height properly and just goes off what everyone else says.

no im using it to get laid and live life silly because its all about how you look until it isnt and then your old and no one is looking at you. MIght as well do what you can to enjoy the time you have here and sow your wild oats.
How do you protect yourself from HPV etc?
My guess: with what appears to be a dazzling personality.
If you're a woman you can get a vaccine. Other than that there's no way to reasonably avoid it besides abstinence. If you've had more than one sexual partner then chances are you already have it.
HPV vaccinations are now recommended for both genders for people under the age of 26 for the most part
> Though I guarantee you're overestimating the number of touch ups

Is this really your experience? Because that would be surprising. I see the damn snapchat eye enlargement on pretty much every second female dating profile photo nowadays.

It gets better when you stop trying to match with 18-26 year olds.
Oh snaaap.